(and lots of it)!
I remember when I first heard about Hannah Brencher, and I was first tied to her crazy idea. It was in one of my most difficult years of college. A year, that was a huge turning point for me. I was sitting at home alone and watched her ted talk. After, I was in a flurry. I needed to write, there were so many words itching, aching, dying to get out of me. So I picked up a pen in one of the most feverish, cathartic freewriting sessions I have ever experienced.
That’s what Hannah does to people; she helps them find, feel, and feed the fire in their belly.
She is what I like to call a lightworker. She brings light into people’s lives to help them better see, themselves, and their purpose. She has found a way to spread the gift of light and the work of lightworkers, through love letters. Through her organization, More Love Letters, she helps people spread love and light where it is most needed, and the holidays are no exception.
In the lead up to the holidays, 12 precious days are dedicated to 12 beautiful people who are a need of a pat on the back, a message of love, some beautifully penned words. I am honoured to be wrapping up these 12 Days of Love Letters with a note to Petra, here’s the request:
In August Petra’s husband told her that he no longer loved her and would be moving out after 30 years of marriage. No one in their family saw this decision coming and the transition has been tough. Petra’s daughter wrote to us “My mum thinks she has lost her place in the world. And I want her to know that she always will have a place. I want her to smile again. I love my mum. And if everybody knew about her kindness and devotion to our family – you would probably love her, too.”
Myself, and many others are beside you.
Many of us have also experienced lost love, the type that is ripped out of your hands before you ever expected and leaves behind a gapping hole, a missing space, a stark feeling of emptiness. But my dear, you have never been empty. You are allowed to feel it, but it isn’t true. It’s your fear and his ghost, lying to you. You will always remain whole and full because you are deeply loved.
It is love that you must rely on. Love will continue to glue you together and keep you in one piece.
Love is what will hold you together and keep you full. It will come in many forms, in a gift from a neighbour, a hug from your daughter, or a smile from a stranger. Look for it, watch for the loving experiences of others, and find joy in them. Don’t let jealously or regret infect you. Look forward, and look for love.
Most importantly intentionally work to develop love for yourself. Treat yourself: take your daughters on a trip, do something you’ve always wanted to do, but haven’t had the opportunity to. Work to show the same kindness and devotion you show to your family, to yourself. Rediscover what makes you feel full and whole and beautiful. And hold on to it, keep it close.
You are a force of love, of kindness and goodness, your place in the world is so much bigger than him. Turn this experience into a beautiful part of your story, don’t forget you are the only protagonist of that narrative.
A Note for your Daughter:
“When her pain is fresh and new, let her have it, don’t try to take it away, forgive yourself for not having that power. Greif and pain are like joy and peace; they are not things we should try and snatch from each other. They’re sacred. Theyare part of each persons journey. All we can do is offer relief from this fear: I am all alone. That’s the fear you can alleviate” Glennon Doyle Melton
Please join me in taking some time today to send Petra a message, she needs a reminder of how loved she is. Letters are welcome in German & English and can be mailed to the address below.
*use address as is – do not add “Petra’s bundle”